First off I still have to co-sign Nelly’s perspective on opportunities in the music industry.  It even inspired a post from me on the free money mentality.  Now Nelly called into WCGI Chicago, end ended up denying every having an official relationship with singer Ashanti.  Loni Swain asked him if he had broken it off with Ashanti and Nelly questioned weather or not they were officially dating.  he had the following to say:

Who said that?   Well what have we always said?  Of course I’m single.  I’m not married, she’s not married.

“Here’s the thing.  I’ve never said I’m in a relationship, she’s never said she’s in a relationship.  I don’t know where they do that at.  But we’ve always admitted to being friends.

Not to throw Ashanti under the bus he only had great things to say about her:

We hang out.  She’s a very sweet girl.  Very pretty girl.  Very talented.  She does her thing as far as her career and I do my thing as far as mine.

Listen to the segment below.

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He also tackled the “why are so many smart and beautiful black women are single” question pretty gracefully.  I thought his response was actually pretty universal as opposed to being specific to black women:

This is just my opinion.  I think some girls want the perfect guy.  I’m not saying he doesn’t exist, he just has to exist for you.  It’s not going to exist for society…and for you to say “this is the perfect guy“.

We interpret relationships wrong a little bit.  Instead of ‘Do we look right in society’s eyes?’, it should be ‘Does he look right in MY eyes?  Does he take care of me..make me feel special?’  He may not be 6’2 broad shoulders and all that…but I’ve seen girls turn down a great guy because he doesn’t look the part.

Then you got the guys who look the part, but don’t act the part.  It’s just about coming up with that balance.  Society has also put us in a rut–either brothers are in jail…or don’t like girls no more.  To each his own.

Listen to the whole clip below.

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Spotted at TheYBF.